In honour of “Bondage and Discipline, Domination and Submission, Sadism and Masochism,” BDSM Day was observed this past weekend. Since 2011, these techniques have become more widely accepted after the success of EL James’s 50 Shades of Grey book series and its film adaptations.
There is a misconception that these practises are all the same. In BioBioChile, he said, “If I prefer BDSM, that doesn’t mean I should practise all of them.”
Sexual acts should never put a person in danger, and should only be performed voluntarily, by agreement, and free of any external pressure. As a result, we are not discussing acts of aggression or abuse where there is no explicit permission “he elaborated.
But What Are The Different Bdsm Practices?
Tying up your spouse, watching him or her be immobilised, or experiencing the sensation of being immobilised by your partner is an exciting practise.” It’s possible to employ sexually explicit ties, handcuffs, leg restraints, anklets, and ribbons for this. Suspension, on the other hand, requires covering someone’s eyes with a handkerchief or a lawnmower. A practise described as “erotic asphyxia” (or “breathplay”) falls under the umbrella of “breathplay.”
Erotically driven punishments like whipping, flogging, using a gag, and other objects are all examples of disciplinary measures that have an erotic motivation.
According to this definition of dominance, dominance refers to a participant who “dictates or dominates another, but all always within the context of an erotic game and being consenting.”
A “submissive” individual is one who abides by another’s will “under free choice.”
Sadists get their sexual gratification by inflicting pain and suffering on another person.
If pain is no longer desirable or pleasure is replaced by suffering, then BDSM is not being done correctly.
Erotic pleasure is felt by those who find pleasure in experiencing discomfort or pain during a sexual interaction. Masochism refers to this type of sexual pleasure. Another example of BDSM not being practised appropriately is when “pain becomes unpleasant,” or when pleasure is replaced by misery.
There are many people who practise BDSM without even realising it, according to Seplveda’s assertions.
Do You Know How To Practise Safely?
– It’s critical to stay in touch. Others require that all parties involved in the implementation of them expressly and vocally agree. A talk about “soft boundaries,” those that I’m ready to give up and/or compromise, and “hard limits,” those that I’m not, is also required.
– Make use of a “safe” word.
The word “stop” can indicate many different things depending on the severity of the discomfort or pain being experienced. According to Seplveda, the dominant or submissive should listen to and stop when the dominant or submissive uses a colour or a term that is not often used during sex, such as “yellow” or “pink.” It’s advisable not to use words like “No” or “Stop” because they may be even more stimulating to the other person.
• Avoid using tools that could endanger the other person, such as those made specifically for this type of activity, and avoid using cords purchased at a hardware store, for example. “Erotic candles,” which are marketed in cosmetics stores, are a safe alternative to traditional “wax play,” which involves playing with lit candles and sperm. Sex toys can be used for penetrative intercourse, masturbation, or external stimulation without causing any harm.
A condom is your best bet for preventing the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases including hepatitis and HIV.
An alternative approach for beginners is to educate themselves and seek sound advice so that they are aware of the myths as well as the realities surrounding these techniques.
There should be an open discussion with the couple about their limitations and, of course, their agreement to carry out some or all of the BDSM activities when it comes to these.